LOVE AS A SEXUAL COMMODITY

LOVE AS A SEXUAL COMMODITY

THE WEEK (2009) 11/13

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The technology is now here for a constant and consistent number of partners always available, 24/7/ 365 days a week. One can have a relationship by cyber or a real

hook up. After a number of partners, the choice takes precedence over a single partner.

In cyberspace, one can become a more perfect persona. In going to another dimension,

Cyber reality is much better than real reality. If for any reason, the other partner is a problem they can be quickly banished. The technology can mean cell phone, texting,

tweeting, cybersex and a number of other choices. When love is just another commodity,

the excitement of meeting (rushed on by oxcytocin) and a new language from a new partner, life can be superficially grand.

If you perceptually have more than one partner, a detachment emerges. You can go to someone else or see a computer psychiatrist. Making a commitment to one person seems dangerous, because as those who have had many marriages know, there are stages. In the end, the relationship becomes boring. By that time, fantasy of another more perfect person filters into the mind. What is boring to one, is contentment to another. So, monogamy can begin and survive even in some very marginal marriages. Sooner or later, moms and dads come back together, weathered but wiser.

(From this blog author) Alvin Toffler’s FUTURE SHOCK talks about “overchoice.” It has the same problems as loneliness. It is simply naive to like anyone too much and get

tossed away.)

At any rate, like the extreme of loneliness, overchoice is not an option that is a road

where happiness emerges.